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If you are not from Manitoba, the term "wedding social" might not be familiar. But for anyone who calls this Canadian prairie province home, it's a deeply engrained and celebrated part of getting married.

So what exactly is a Manitoba Wedding Social, why does it exist and what makes it so special?

Let's dive in!

What is a Manitoba Wedding Social?

At it's core, the Manitoba Wedding Social (usually simply called a "social") is a fundraising party held by a couple - or their wedding party - a few months before their wedding day. Basically, it is a grand pre-wedding bash where friends, family and the wider community come together to celebrate the upcoming nuptials and help the couple financially.

It's a party with a pupose

The social serves a dual, but equally important, purpose:

Financial Support: The primary goal of the social is to raise money for the couples wedding expenses, their honeymoon and to help them get a head start on their life together. Guests contribute by purchasing entry or support tickets, buying beverages and tickets to the "silent auction" (at a social a silent auction is more of a "draw" where tickets are placed in bags for each item and a ticket is selected by random draw).

Broader Celebration: Weddings are usually a smaller, more intimate affair. The social provides an opportunity for the couple to celebrate with a much wider circle of friends, extended family, colleagues and community members who might not be able to attend the main wedding. It's an inclusive way to share their joy with everyone.

A Night of Prairie Fun: What to Expect

A typical Manitoba Wedding Social is a lively affair, held in a large, accessible venue like a community centre, Legion or banquet hall. Here's what you will likely experience:

Tickets: Entry is by ticket, usually costing around $10-$20 ($10 has been the standard since the mid 80s, but adjusting for inflation it should be around $20 at the time of this post writing). There are often support tickets that can be purchased as well. These tickets to not count towards the attendance and do not allow entry, but will allow someone to show support.

Music & Dancing: A DJ (or band) is a must-have, keeping the dance floor packed with a mix of current hits, classic songs of the 60s thru the 2000s and distinctly "social songs" that get everyone moving. Expect a high energy atmosphere throughout the night.

The Bar: A cash bar is central to the fundraising, offering reasonably priced beverages (both alcoholic and non-alcoholic). It's the hub where guests mingle and enjoy great drinks.

Late Lunch: This is a beloved tradition! Around 11:00pm, a buffet of "social food" is served. Traditionally, this includes a spread of cold cuts (such as kubasa and other deli meats), Canadian rye bread, cheese cubes, pickles and coffee. There are several delis and grocery stores that offer "social platters". It is becoming popular to serve pizza as a late lunch, and many pizza places have specials for socials.

Silent Auction (Draws/Raffles): This is where the majority of the fundraising happens. You will find tables laden with prize packages, often donated by local businesses, family and friends. Guests buy tickets (usually in bundles) and place them in bags located in front of the the prizes. 50/50 draws (where half the raised money goes to the winner) and "perfume" or "booze wagon" draws are also very popular. Usually around 11:30, the couple draws tickets from the bags at random and either announce the winning number, or posts them on the wall.

a glimpse into the history: Roots in Community

The origins of the Manitoba Wedding Social stretch back to the late 1800s, emerging from community spirit of the prairie settlements. The social evolved from a blend of:

"Bees": These were essential community work-sharing gatherings where neighbours would come together to help each other with large tasks, like building barns ("barn-raisings"), harvesting crops or even collective cooking.

Social Dances: These gatherings often included dancing and celebration, providing much-needed outlets in often isolated communities.

Over time, these "bees" transformed, incorporating fundraising elements. People would gather not just to work, but to celebrate and bring goods or money to assist those in need, including young couples starting out. It was a grass-roots, mutual aid system that ensured no one was left behind in the harsh realities of prairie life. While various European immigrant groups contributed to the evolution of the social (and some trace specific elements to Ukrainian traditions, for example), the social became a distinctly Manitoba practice, a reflection of the collective ingenuity and supportive nature of its diverse communities.

Why is the Social Unique to Manitoba?

While other parts of Canada (like Northwest Ontario) have similar fundraising parties, often called "Stag and Do", "Buck and Doe" or "Jack and Jill" events, the Manitoba Wedding Social stands out due to several key factors:

Cultural Ubiquity: In Manitoba, the social isn't a niche event; it's a near-universal and expected part of the wedding journey for most couples across the entire province, from Winnipeg to the smallest rural communities.

Scale and Scope: Manitoba socials are famously large gatherings, designed to accommodate hundreds of guests. The specific combination of entry tickets, cash bar, comprehensive prize raffles/silent auctions, late-night food and dedicated DJ/Dance atmosphere makes it a distinct and robust fundraising model.

Legal Framework: Uniquely Manitoba's provincial regulations (through the Liquor, Gaming and Cannabis Authority) specifically allows for licensed raffles at socials, enabling the significant fundraising through prize draws that is the hallmark of these events. This legal backing differentiates it from other regions where such fundraising might be restricted to registered charities.

Community Hub: Beyond just fundraising, the social has historically served as a vital community hub and major social event, particularly during the long prairie winters. This deep-seated role in community life solidified its place as a beloved tradition.

The Enduring (and Evolving) Tradition

The Manitoba Wedding Social is undoubtedly more than just a party; it's a vibrant continuation of a unique prairie tradition. It's a testament to community spirit, mutual support and the enduring desire to celebrate love in a big, joyful and distinctly Manitoban way.

However, in recent years, the social has faced some challenges and criticisms, leading to discussion about it's future. Many couples today are marrying later in life, often already financially established and owning many household items that early prairie couples needed. This shift can lead to the perception that the social has become more of a "cash grab" rather than a genuine act of communal support. Compounding this perception is the fact that the social entry price has largely remained $10 since the mid 1980s, despite significant increases in the cost of everything else. This means that guests often pay relatively little for admission compared to the overall expense of the event, placing more pressure on other fundraising methods. There's also pressure on friends and family to not only buy tickets but also to sell them and to contribute to prizes, which some find burdensome. Furthermore, the expectation for elaborate and high-value prizes has grown, sometimes leading couples to purchase items themselves, cutting into the very profits the social is meant to generate.

Despite these evolving attitudes, there's a strong argument for keeping the unique tradition alive. The social offers an unparalleled opportunity for a couple to include a wider circle of their community in their celebration, creating large, fun gathering that many guests look forward to. It fosters community spirit, provides a lively social outlet and remains a uniquely Manitoban way to celebrate love. So, if you ever find yourself invited to one, embrace the experience - you'll be part of a truly special cultural phenomenon that continues to adapt and thrive!